WHEN SHE WRITES TURNS ONE! A BIG THANKYOU!

This is what I wrote on my very first blog post, one year ago:

WHAT IS BEAUTIFUL?

 

Maybe about 5 years ago, people's comments, ideas and beliefs of who I was would have entirely shaped me. Imagine this : 5 years ago , if someone told me I was 'fat' I would spend hours running to try and instantly shake of the weight some how , I would spend hours locked in rooms checking my weight on the scales to see if I had lost any of my disgusting fat. sometimes , just maybe I would loose some weight,, but guesss what? I was still fat anyway.

NOVEMBER GOALS

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Happy new month readers!

 

Lately I have been feeling like I have been seriously lacking ambition. Before , I used to set myself blogging goals, life ambitions and just in general dream big. I feel like reality and fear have played  big part in me no longer thinking like a life boss, with everything under control. For those of you have been reading since the start of my blogging journey, will know I never like to leave a problem unfixed.

 

Life goals are soooo important, something I plan to do by the end of this year is to create a vision boar on my bedroom door , so that every time I walk in my room , I can see my future. I also , definitely want to create a plan to completely reinvent me. Ok , well not completely, but just enough for me to form a new mind-set, a way of thinking and a confident way of presenting myself. This is something that is really going to form the basis of my goals this month.

When she writes: glorious and maybe slightly unachievable goals for November
1. Give your blog a makeover! Show it the same love and attention you would want for yourself!

2. Gain 20 or more followers to join in the fun!

3. Make a lifelong friend

4. Get focussed a school and place your education first again

5. figure out what you want to be in life

6. Love life a whole lot more


I would love for you to share your goals too!

OCTOBER THOUGHTS

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There's something about these autumn months that gets me so excited. I feel like its around about October that something inside me clicks and just says : 'right, you need to make some changes' and usually, I follow this feeling.

 

This past week, as the school term continues to drag and university applications are fast approaching, pressure and worry has really begun to set in. I'm sure I'm not the only one that gets this way sometimes. Life just has a little way of preparing you for inevitable dramas that are often just around the corner. I had a moment to myself recently when I just started to think about my entire teen years and all the highs and the lows and how they have all made a huge contribution to many of the things I am and the things I do today. When you have a little time to yourself , think about all the progress you've made over the pat few years and you may actually surprise yourself.

 

A couple of things stood out to me as I was having my little reflection and I felt like I had to share them with you.

 

1. Never try to make yourself the image of someone else. Never, never, never.

 

2. Go back and try new things you didn't have time for in the past

 

3. Fireworks are definitely a good idea

 

4. Don't let other peoples definition of beautiful get mixed up with yours

 

5. Mistakes are chances to learn

 

 

What would you say you have learnt the most from your younger self, or what would you say to your younger self now? Let me know in the comments

 

Have a spectacular week

When she writes

BIG CHANGES

I have been seriously missing blogging. It's coming up to my 1st year since I started this site and all the memories seem to be flooding back. Back then I felt so unaccomplished , blogging seemed to fill that hole.

Since then, it has been constant change for me,  have been rebuilding and developing myself, this whole entire process has become one giant project for me. My blog has always brought me so much joy, I used to write many posts a week, have so many exciting conversations with my readers, all this was a formation of my own little network. However, since then  I think I have lost touch with blogging. I'm not sure why, probably because when your going through changes , sometimes the whole experience can be overwhelming.

 

To be totally honest, I feel like over the past few months, the hole that blogging filled, has slowly started to widen up again and I find myself desperately trying to fill it. Blogging just brings something to the table that nothing else seems to offer :So that's why I'm returning.

 

That's right, When she writes is officially back open for business. I mean properly. Like the old stuff I miss writing so much, proper weekly posts and lots of lots of interacting with other bloggers. As my 1 year on blogger approaches , I really want to look back on my journey positively. I can't wait to share more memories with you all!

 

Love,

When she writes

FAILURE CHALLENGES FAITH

           (choosing this picture from http://veronicaroth.com it includes 2 of my favourite things)

It was finally time. In just a few minutes , less that five minutes away, my future would be determined by a few letters on a paper.  I had prayed and prayed for months, yearned for happiness in the form of neatly assembled perfect grades on a sheet of crisp white paper. I was sure, positively certain that despite fear, today I was not to be disappointed.  I had worked tirelessly for months , revising for exams, worried for weeks on end for results day to finally hit and it all boiled down to this very final moment.

SUMMER IS THE SEASON TO BLOSSOM

Hello Readers!

I hope you have all been enjoying your summer! Summer is literally speeding at a ridiculous rate and I am not ok with that.  

The Introverted Freak

I am confident, I am loud , I am funny, the person everyone looks to when they're want to have a good time. 

This is who I used to be, somewhere along the line, somewhere in between my seventeen years, that all changed. Somewhere along the line I became shy, scared, the introverted freak. 

For at least a year , I have been trying to rebuild myself. I noticed that when I talked to new people, I just couldn't get my words out, I couldn't find anything interesting to say. People would look at me as if to say 'What are you?' 

I began avoiding social situations around this time too, if anything came up , I would find an excuse, pretend I was busy, pretend I was ill. I would battle within myself whenever I had to speak to someone, only at the end of it to loose myself every time. I was scared to speak.

Slowly, I tried and I tried to morph into the person I wanted to be. I tried to be confident, trying to make people laugh the moment I met them. I tried creating eye contact, I stopped trying to let my eyes wander of into the distance whenever I spoked to someone. I worked hard to be the new  me.

And I thought I had succeeded.

Sometimes it just takes a small encounter to make a big difference. 

I had been working with a company for a week, most of them where men in their 30s , being here, I had told myself, was to be the biggest test of my progress. 

I started the week with a real willingness to change, I would smile , greet people when I saw them, I was so proud. But  again , this was short lived, my confidence seemed to suffer several knock backs as I just couldn't seem to get anything right. I had spent the week writing for them and every time I showed them something, it seemed to be wrong. I just didn't understand how the only thing I thought I could rely on , writing, one of my few skills, could fail me when I needed it most.

That was not the real wake up call.

The week was over and it was time to evaluate my progress. I was certain they were going to say things like  ' you struggled a little bit at the start but you really improved.' This would have been great compared to what actually happened.

Instead, I felt my world turn in a matter of seconds.

Shy, lacking confidence, uninterested, ME.

I was the introverted freak.

All week, I had been certain, the looks I had been getting were looks of encouragement and the endless cups of tea were signs of care. Now all I thought of was pity. I imagined how when I left at the end of the day they would gather and have conversations like ' isn't she strange , the poor thing must be scared out of her mind .'- I didn't want their pity.

Why was it that I had been trying so hard yet the world seemed to be against me?

Sometimes it just takes a small encounter to make a big difference. 

After this, I returned home trying to hide my sadness and embarrassment from my family. I found myself in my room once again , eating and watching TV. I sought refuge in my favourite show, My Mad Fat Diary, The main character, Rae Earl, reminded me of myself sometimes. Those of you who have watched the show will know that Rae Earl messes up often but unlike me , somehow she manages to pull herself pull through.

Through an emotional final episode, something she said stuck with me:  "I've got to do this on my own." 

The answer had been staring at me all along. I realised that the only person stopping my progression was me , I was the one holding me back  no one else.

So today I start. My journey begins today . I may never be loud or  funny and people may never look at me when they want to have a good time but I, for one , will be confident in who I am and that's all I want to be.

WHEN SHE WRITES' ULITIMATE SPRING ESSENTIALS GUIDE

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At laaaasssstttt! Spring is final upon us!  I am the only one who's mood completely changes once the sun is out? I start wanting to do more things, explore more, read more, shop more , spend time with friends and all round just have a good time. Spring is the prep for summer, the starter before the main course , a little taste of what is yet to come. And of course here at when she writes, I couldn't leave you with out a special list to get you through the season. My favourite books, must go to shops and spring activities packed in one place: these are just a few recommendations that I usually do to make spring just that bit better. Enjoy!

WHEN SHE TALKS: HOW CONFIDENCE REALLY CHANGES THINGS

 

Raise your hands if at least once , you have found yourself no longer wanting to do something that you once loved?

Yep, that is you and me both. (you can put you hands down now) My oh ,my have I missed blogging.  However recently I felt like something was about to threaten my future in blogging: I no longer felt that my blog was 'good enough'. I have been reading your comments and I would love to thank you all for your kind words in my mini blogger break. I guess you could say that these thoughts were all to do with one major thing: confidence

THE BEST AND THE WORST: HIGH SCHOOL MEMORIES

At aged 16 and now nearing the end of my first year of sixth form, it suddenly dawned on me that in just over a year I will be leaving high school never to see its face again. These, as adults often say, are meant to be the best days of your life, the times that you will never forget. Yet in just over a year it will all be over. For good. And you know what.... I have never been happier.

WHEN SHE WRITES RETURNS!

Hello All! I have missed you all very much! I feel like since I temporarily left the blogging world I have pretty much forgotten how to write, so please bear with me! Some of you may have noticed that my posts have been a lot less frequent on this blog and I have done a bit of a disappearing act on here. Fear not, I have returned! To be honest, I no longer had as much time to blog, I felt like my posts weren't really good enough and above all, I didn't really feel like blogging.

 

But that was then- this is now. I want to make some changes around here but those changes will be gradual. I can't promise you daily posts but I can promise you often. I want to blog about things that are truly and deeply important. I wan to hear what you all have to say! So, I ask you all a little favour: if you want to, please comment below a question/topic that you want my perspective on, I will do my best to give my honest viewpoint in a blog post.

 

Sorry for the barely there post, but I promise it is only up from here!

 

Thanks for reading!

5 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD LEAVE YOUR COMFORT ZONE

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Ahhh the comfort zone, it is a wonderful, wonderful place to be .... said me for the past 16 years of my life. I hated the idea of having to change my routine or having to do difficult tasks because it felt safer that way. But to be honest I eventually got tired of living this repetitive, unexciting lifestyle

A COLLECTION OF THOUGHTS #1

 

I am writing this post late at night, pretty much in the morning. It got me thinking, I do a lot of my thinking like this. Am I the only person who can't sleep when the thoughts are still running through my mind like clockwork? Most of the time I don't really  think to record them. However, I thought that this is something many of us can related to or have experienced themselves.

COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS

 

Why is it that we are always measuring who were are, what we do, where we are going against the achievements of others? There is a hidden danger in not being content in the position that we are in, yet aiming to be in the position of the person how seems more glamorous, intelligent, wealthy or even more confident that we are. Comparing yourself to others is like judging yourself. There is an endless number of ways in which we can measure our worth against others, it is an on going, continuous and dark road.

BLOGGING UPDATE!

 

Hello friends!

How was your week? I would love to hear how all of you got on with my last post, I hope it got you out and about! I think I owe you all an apology, I haven't blogged in what seems like ages. I spent hours trying to work on a new blog design but none of the templates seemed fitting so I just went back to my original design! I'm sure a couple of you will be disappointed but at the moment I really can't afford the best, most glamourous template even though I wold like to!

At the beginning of last month I pomised you all a weekly update of my life and all the cool things that I have been doing lately.... as you may have noticed there has been none of that. Mostly because if I was to show you all the 'cool tings' I have been doing recently, all I could really show you are a couple of revision text books and a girl sitting on her bed watching endless youtube videos. I don't think anyone wants to see that! As soon as anything interesting happens I will be sure to write about it and probably start a whole lifestyle series on my blog.

Watch out guys becase there is a DIY post coming your way! (All I need to do is actually write the post) . I have a lot of posts planned , but to be honest what I really need is time, im sure all my fellow bloggers out there will understand that!

And lastly, I think I really need to sort out my blog! I need a PROPER blogging schedule that I can stick to! Also, if any of you have any suggestions on how I can improve my blog please leave them in the below, I promise I won't be offended!

I know this was a bit of a short post and not the most eciting thing you want to read on a Monday, but I felt like I needed to sort out some of the blogging issues that I have created for myself this past week!

Thanks so much for reading!

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100 ACTIVITIES THAT WILL GET YOU OFF YOUR COUCH... RIGHT NOW!

Happy Monday All! I know not everyone likes Mondays, sometimes we just feel like wrapping ourselves up in the sheets and hibernating there and sometimes we feel like sitting in front of the TV until it reaches the weekend. To be honest, we are spending more and more time surrounded by technology and less time getting up and doing something productive with our time. There are so, so many things that we can do that is a bit different and out of our ordinary routines. These are the types of things that make life just that little bit more exciting! Because of this, I decided that I would make a list complete to do just that. Some of these are a little crazy some of this are reasonable but fun, but all of them are doable! You can turn these into a bucket list or just something to fill in your free time but I CHALLENGE all of you to do at least one of them by the end of this week.

hope you enjoy!

OOOPS... CLASSIC TEENAGE MISTAKES

Yes, we are all very aware that everybody makes mistakes.... some more than others. And by some, I mean me. I am a teenager OK, mistakes are made, we need to make them in order  to learn. Sometimes we make mistakes that seem alright at the time, but as time goes on, we then begin to realise that we got things a little wrong.

50 WAYS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE #5

I was going to start this post with just my average 'Happy Monday!' , but then i had to rephrase it...... this post will now begin with the happiest Monday of the year! ( I know its only February)

WHAT BLOGGING HAS TAUGHT ME SO FAR

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As most of you know, I have been blogging since late November. I started blogging as a personal challenge, not expecting much from it. What I did end up with was hugely surprising. who knew there was a whole new community out there, just waiting for me to discover? It has to be said, I am just LOVING blogging.

BLOG POST IDEAS FOR THE UNINSPIRED

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Hello everyone! This week is going so quickly! I have recently been feeling like I have run uot of blogging ideas, yes, already. I felt as if all the posts I was doing were kind of the same and it was getting quite repetitive. I decided to go surfing the internet to give me a little inspiration. and you know what I found? ALOT of ideas. Who says Google doesn't have all the answers? Today, I have decided to gather what I thought were the best ideas that those who are uninspired, like me, might find useful. Enjoy!

 

INFINITY DREAMS AWARD

Hello everyone! I hope you enjoyed yesterday's post! Quite a while ago now, I was nominated by absolutely amazing Jessica from Jessica-jem. I am really loving her blog at the moment and although she does some amazing makeup related posts, she does NOT stop there! I would definitely suggest that you visit her blog to experience her greatness for yourselves!

REASONS TO BE HOPEFUL FOR A BETTER TOMORROW

Happy Monday!

I hope your weekend was just lovely! I did a post about a month ago called 'reasons to be grateful for today'. Quite a lot of you liked that post, so I wanted to create a follow up post for it.

Sometimes, we might feel like today has just been a drag or a disappointment but we must always remember that tomorrow is an opportunity and a chance to start over.

Hope you enjoy!

NO PLACE I'D RATHER BE- TRAVEL POST

Hello beautiful people! thanks for stopping by once again , you are always welcome here! I have been thinking a lot more about travel recently, probably because when the going gets tough we just plan to escape, go anywhere rather than where we are at that particular moment. It really got me thinking about how much I am missing out on and there is a whole world out there needing to be explored. I made this list of some of the places I would love to visit (if ihad both the chance and the money) maybe one day I will actually get there!

 



 Manarola, Italy

GOODBYE JANUARY

What a crazy month this has been! It has been such an emotional roller coaster! I feel like this month, I have really determined some of my long term life goals as well as some of my potential blogging goals.

At the end of last month I wrote a post about some of the things I wanted to do in the early months of 2015 ( click here to view) I can honestly say hardly any of them have been actually achieved.

However, this upcoming month, I really want to change my blog in many ways.

I have outlined my future blogging goals and the sort of posts tat you can expect to see this month fom me. I have also linked belo some of my most popular posts so far and some of the posts that I enjoyed writing the most.

FAVOURITE BLOGGERS OF THE MOMENT

Hello everyone! Hope you weekend is going smoothly! Throughout my few months of blogging, I have developed a love for reading other blogs. The greatest thing is that not to blogs are the same so I am more than happy to read a variety. From fashion, to life style and even comics I find myself spending endless minutes online, catching up on my favourite blogs.
Some of these people have even turned out in my opinion, to be not only readers of my blog but also people that I could call friends.
To be honest, not all of the blogs that I read or show interest towards are written here but here are just a few of the blogs that I take my time to read!

50 WAYS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE #4

Happy Friday!

The '50 ways' series are one of my favourite kind of posts to do and after what has been quite a busy week I think we could all do with a little motivation. I went searching out for some inspirational quotes, mainly around the overall topic of happiness. Mostly because I want you all to feel inspired, free and  literally unstoppable!

 

I have all added to the '50 ways' series by adding a little inspirational spoken word video for you all as a little addition. I hope you like it and find it an interesting addition!

 

DANCE LIKE NOBODY IS WATCHING

Hello everyone!

I have really missed you guys! These past couple of weeks have been really hectic! Ad unfortunately so will the upcoming weeks be. This has meant that my blogging schedule hasn't really been going to plan! Also some of my more detailed posts that take a lot more time to write haven't been posted. I just want them to be the best they can be before I press that publish button. And for that I am really sorry!

 

THOUGHTS FOR REFLECTION

 

Hello lovelies! I just wanted to have a little chat with you all today. I feel like I haven't done a post like that in a while with all the awards and advice posts I've been doing lately. I want us all to spend some special time today talking about things that are on our minds.

 

Sometimes, we may feel like there is no one to turn to when we are angry. Or like no one listens when we speak, like we are invisible.

BEGINNERS MUST READ: WHAT THEY DON'T TELL YOU ABOUT BLOGGING WHEN YOU FIRST START

 

Hey! I hope you are enjoying your week so far!

As far as I know , there is no official guide that tells you what you should do when you first begin blogging. I remember it like it was yesterday ( it practically was , it has barely been two months) After my first post, I felt so lost: I asked myself so many questions , Where are the followers? will I ever get followers? Is anyone actually reading this? I didn't even know what to expect. Recently, I have been getting some comments in relation on what to do with blogging and how to gain followers, So I put together this small beginners guide.To be honest I myself am a beginner , so I am still learning and I myself need to follow my own guidance. I just thought it would be nice, one blogger to another, to share tips and tricks to make blogging the most enjoyable experience possible.

LIEBSTER AWARD AND A BIG THANKYOU

Hello guys, Yes, I have been nominated for ANOTHER award. I would like to take this time to say a massive thank you. I haven't even been blogging for two months and I have received so much love from you all. Even your little comments that may not seem much to you, make my day. You take the time to read, respond to questions I ask and you also tell others about my blog and get others involved . I could not be more grateful. I have gained over 60 followers on GFC ,more that I could have imagined in this short time and to add to that, I have gained well over 100 followers on Bloglovin after just over a week. yes, people have a lot more, it may seem small to some, but to me it is something quite special. And I value every single one of you.

Today, I bring you the Liebster award! I am so glad to be doing this! I was nominated by not one , not even two but three of my amazing readers. 

SISTERHOOD OF THE WORLD BLOGGER AWARD

Hello Everyone! 3 posts in a week? I surprise myself sometimes!

I was awarded the sisterhood of the world blogger award by the awesome and talented Neal Kind over at Daily Diaries. He has a great blog and if you love comics or generally want to make a great blogger friend then please check out his blog!

Here are the rules for this award:
 1. Provide a link and thank the blogger who nominated you for this award.
2. Answer a few questions about yourself.
3. Nominate 10-12 blogs that you find a joy to read.
4. Provide links to these nominated blogs and let the recipients know that they have been nominated.
5. Include the award logo within your blog post.

1. Your guilty pleasure?

Probably Haribos... one I get started, I just.. I just can't stop

HOW TO:SUCCEED IN BLOGGING WITHOUT REALLY TRYING #1

 



Hello awesome friends of the internet!

As promised, I have brought you the first of many in my new How to series. It is slightly different from what we are used to her at 'when she writes' but if we were all the same it would be a shame:)Plus, as mentioned in my previous post, I really want to explore new things with my blog.

But before we begin, I would like to welcome Laura from Blonde and Cupcakes! With almost 1,000 , yes ONE THOUSAND followers on Bloglovin, having only been blogging for around 2 months , Blonde and Cupcakes is set to take the blogging world by a storm! I have linked below details to her blog and other accounts so please go and follow her after reading!

I absolutely love her blog and she was kind enough to let me share her post titled: BLOGGING TIPS: THINGS I'VE LEARNT FROM BLOGGING SO FAR

I thought it is a simple but useful way to get us started on the 'how to' series as it has evidently worked for her and maybe it can work for the rest of us bloggers to!

50 WAYS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE #3

                          

Ok. I really apologise for letting you guys down with my schedule last week. I was meant to blog on Saturday but 'life things' happened and I really just couldn't bring myself to write about something that is meant to bring happiness but to be honest, I was feel that way myself. But I am back and dertermined to get things back in shape this week!

Im back again with my 50 ways to change your life series!(yay) I wanted to write a 'how to' or 'DIY' post but I would love you guys to give me some ideas.

I have recently been loving this instagram account called 'best sayingss' so I wanted to share some of their posts with you as they help to make me smile, so maybe they will make you too!

                 

REASONS TO BE GRATEFUL FOR TODAY

because its 2015
because you made it
new year = new opportunities = endless possibilities
you're alive
everyday is an opportunity to make something of yourself
there are 7 billion people out there. talk to some them.
today is a fresh start
be grateful long nights.
The rising of the sun
watching the sun set
the moon
the stars
long conversations